Unfelt emotions don't disappear..... they wait.

Your brain wasn’t built to prioritise your happiness—it was built to help you survive.
Sounds harsh, I know. But it’s true.

The brain’s primary job is to scan for danger. It reacts emotionally and quickly, assigning negative meaning before it even has time to fully process what’s happening. That’s the survival instinct at work, and it’s been this way for millions of years.
Here’s the kicker: our brains crave control. So when life veers off course—bad weather, unexpected traffic, plans falling apart—we get upset. Even though deep down, we know it’s a little irrational to let things outside our control shape our mood so strongly. Still, it happens. Recognising this is powerful. It’s the first step in breaking the cycle.

We can’t always control what happens, but we can learn how to respond.

The words control and regulate are everywhere in the wellbeing space right now. But if you look into the roots of those words, they’re often about command, restraint, and fixing. And emotions? They were never meant to be fixed. They’re meant to be felt, expressed, and understood.

Expression is how emotion moves. When we suppress our feelings, they don’t disappear—they just get louder in other ways. But when we create space to feel and express what’s really there, we begin to free ourselves. Expression isn’t about drama or indulgence—it’s about honesty. It’s how we stay connected to ourselves.

As Tony Robins once said, “Where we live emotionally is where we live.”

Emotion is a powerful force. It colours our worldview and drives much of what we create in this life. When we learn to ride the waves of emotion—rather than drown in them or shut them out—it can move us, grow us, and guide us toward meaningful change. Left unexpressed, it can tell stories that drag us down.

You don’t need to control your emotions to live a grounded, fulfilling life.
You need to express them. Understand them. Let them move through you.

Want more support with releasing and processing heavy rooted emotions and healing?
Browse more on the blog, or reach out—I’d love to walk alongside you.

Alice x